And no after such a satisfied feeling one has to make ghusal. Wassalam a woman can have an orgasm without any vaginal insertion, can someone please answer my question ? The intention is different from that. And to understand why someone would like to reduce the frequency, the thought should not be purely spiritual (and we know that this is not something a person is NOT held accountable for). Answer. What if you feel the strong thrust but did not have the wet dream and no discharge? However, if you are lucid dreaming and intentionally decide to have a wet dream by masturbating to porn in a dream or having intentional orgasm (if you are on a Hard Mode) then I would consider it a relapse. Brother Dean, I dont think there is anything wrong with discussing this issue, but I do agree that going too much into details may be better discussed in private among the women alone. In response, I just wanted to share my experience. Some savants state that since a woman's ovum fluid flows back into the vulva, it is better, as a precaution, for her to make ghusl. (islam-qa.com). I tried smelling it too but I dont think I detect any smell from it has Im not even what kind of smell Im searching for. Registering ones marriage necessary as per Shariah. If you are following whats right, dont fear the blame of the blamers and correct me. How do you explain exactly what happens during a wet dream? All you brothers who have a problem with this article, or the details in it, WHY are you guys reading it then, why have u CLICKED on something that says female wet dreams it does not concern you guys so, the author can post whatever she likes!!! I just know that I was conscious of it right after it happened. Besides, Allah azzawajal created wet dreams as an outlet for men and women to release their sexual energy. I do intend to discuss that in details in a future post inshaAllahhowever that is not the goal of this particular post. It happens as a result of human nature which Allah azzawajal has created Himself and no blame can be put on a person. But sometimes scenarios are different; could you please be so kind to give me answers to few scenarios? I received some private questions regarding this article. I had a wet dream but I woke up seconds before my orgasm. I have never had a wet dream but this has happened to me alot, and i dont know if it counts as masturbation. I have a question. If not send them an email. Their words seem to prove the neutrality of performing this act, and thus it is permissable . Asalamualaykum, in your article of wet dreams.. Yasir Qahdi said in one of his answers.. Copyright IslamWeb 2023. I cant know whether I achieved this significantly or insignificantly. Please help me! I wish i could help u but Im too embarrassed to ask. I have felt a bit guilty about this. He said, He does not have to do ghusl. Umm Salamah said, O Messenger of Allah, does a woman have to do ghusl if she sees something like that? He said, Yes, women are the twin halves of men. (Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood). Why is masturbation not allowed? What if a person is asleep but knows they are using their hands to touch themselves in that area, but they are half asleep half awake, but they can still feel it? Please can you help me. If a woman is ovulating and before she went to bed, there was some wetness; when she slept, she had a sexual dream, but she cannot remember if she had an orgasm or not; upon waking she finds wetness. He is an active instructor at SeekersGuidance and answers questions through the SeekersGuidance Answers Service. I think I have made too many comments for one post which isnt even about a mans issue but about women, but inshAllah this would be my last comment on here. salamualikum. Performance cookies are used to understand and analyze the key performance indexes of the website which helps in delivering a better user experience for the visitors. Anything that i hear im worried that itll be converted into a sexual thought . Maybe an older woman reading this would know? . 5. I pray this finds you in the best of states. Whats so hard about taking a shower? If theres no evidence of discharge (wet will be obvious), its not a wet dream. :o) And yes, we can get obsessive at times, and that is also not good. Whenever I was in need of something, I would slip away for I disliked to face him.. That mutaabaa does have a sound chain of narration. It led to my other question: Can wet dreams in itself mark the onset of a girls puberty (balagha) making her accountable for her religious obligations like fasting and hijab? I was asked: 1. in 2002, she organized and hosted the very first "Musim Women's Conference" in Houston, TX. I would like to know the rights of the mother and the wife, so that I can maintain a balance in the family. She should spend more time with her husband. What can i do if i have wet dreams durin fastin.does it in anyway affect my fast.jazak Allahu khairan. Get up for tahajud and pray to Allah that he removes these thoughts until you get married and for Allah to provide you with a good spouse. 4. So it does not matter if a person has an erotic dream, but if they find wetness then they have to perform ghusl, otherwise they do not. Or if the women companions of the prophet sallallhu alayhee wsalam were reading this. How do I know if what Im feeling is pleasure or not? Yes that is true, the Prophet peace be upon him prayed towards the bed in which Aisha may Allah be pleased with her was lying in under the blanket, so this is allowed and it does not cut off the prayer of the man, because it is different than passing in front of the one who is praying, and what cuts off the prayer is the woman actually passing in front of the one praying. In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful. If you're new to lucid dreaming, start with your hands, Robert Waggoner, president of the International Association for the Study of Dreams, and author of Lucid Dreaming - Gateway to the Inner . I wrote in my last post: With regards to your statement there is no haya in issues concerning the deen. What if a female is sure she had a wet dream and had vaginal theobbing and sexual arousing but did not reach the point of having an orgasm. By the way, both men and women should use a sutrah when praying, and the same applies to women too, that if a woman passes in front of another woman who is praying, then she cuts off her prayer as well, and this is not limited to men. JazakAllah Khair. and that Id be able to see the discharge. so please shed some light on this issue, and if there is an existing article, plz feel free to just link me to it inshallah. please can you clarify this to me, i frequently have a wet dream like 5 in a week and i was told by someone that it is bad omen, that it is spiritual problem. One thing to add which is relevant to the topic is that if a woman has a wet dream during her menstrual period, then she still performs ghusl from the wet dream, even if it wont make a difference in terms of performing the prayers because she isnt praying anyways, and Allah knows best. And like the narration in Sahih Muslim in which the Prophet sallallahu alihi wasalam indicated that a mans prayer is cut off when a woman who has gotten her menstruation passes in front of him. a mans prayer is cut off when a woman who has gotten her menstruation passes in front of him. And yes, we cover a lot of taboo topics because we have a tendency to hide our dirty laundry. Can it be considered as Qarze-Hasana if failed to repay? This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. The Prophet (SAW) has taught us the best of deeds are those that done consistently, even if they are small. please go back to the article, i have expalained it there. In this hadth, the Prophet (peace be upon him) made it clear that ghusl is only obligatory upon seeing the liquid. - GupShup Forums, http://www.muslimahsource.org/motherhood/muslimahs-guide-to-puberty-how-to-talk-to-your-daughter-about-adolescence/, Quandary of Female Vaginal Discharge | MuslimMatters.org, http://muslimmatters.org/2010/09/22/quandary-of-female-vaginal-discharge/, Sexual Activities Beyond The Norm: What Should We Teach Our Teens | MuslimMatters.org, A Womens Guide to Spirituality in Ramadan during Menstruation and Postnatal Bleeding - MuslimMatters.org, A Women's Guide to Spirituality in Ramadan during Menstruation and Postnatal Bleeding | MuslimMatters.org, Quandary of Female Vaginal Discharge: Pure or Impure? Does a female wakes up feeling wet (many females have vaginal discharge all the times), or does it have to be accompanied by an orgasm? I get very scared when I pray because im very worried that it might happen. It can be a lunch table discussion, or if you have younger children, it can be one on one with the older one. Uncertainty about purity and wet dream. While manual masturbation or engaging in sexual activity may decrease the need for someone to release their bodily fluids, individuals may still experience nocturnal emissions while sleeping. Most of my teen students learned about these issues from their classmates during 3rd and 4th grade. Now when i sleep in those clothes and wake up i still find them wet although i now deep its wetnes frm sprinkling as i dont recall seeing wet dream. Light sprinkling in ones underwear has only been recommended for those with neurotic misgivings who are constantly afraid of urine exiting their body as it allows them to assume that any moisture felt in their underwear is from the sprinkling and not urine. Your email address will not be published. I know this was posted almost 10 yrs ago so most likely my question wont be answered but Rather it is Umm Sulaym asking the question. Assalamu Alaikum, They always ask lots of needless questions. Just when i thought it had stopped it continues again. I worked with a client who had a destructive thought and this ended it. If black dog represents shaytan, does this mean that in islam woman is considered as satin? Allah knows best, and Zubair Ali Zai classed it as Daif; he did not think its status could be raised, although others did . Yasir Qadhi: To be honest we rarely find such DETAILED discussion in fiqh books, most likely because men are not as familiar with this topic as they should be. In terms of sexual stimulation, veins in a womans genital tissues begin to dilate and fill with blood, gradually making the whole area feel full (called vasocongestion). What if one is awake & imagines foreplay & gets throbbing in the vagina but no wetness of fluid ..does she have to make ghusl? So when the need rises, one must ask in order to educate themselves regarding these issues which are of utmost importance. Now I am not sure what to do due to the Hadith that a Junub person cannot recite the Quran. If he does not have something the height of the back of a saddle in front of him, then his prayer is invalidated if a donkey or a woman or a black dog passes in front of him. I [Abd-Allaah] asked, O Abu Dharr, what is the difference between a black dog and a red or yellow dog? He said, O son of my brother, I asked the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) the same question, and he said, The black dog is a shaytaan (devil). (Narrated by Muslim, 510). dietary, and other factors are not e.g. When I went back to bed I felt discharge do you think this discharge could be a result from the dream?? If a woman has never had any sexual expereince..when she expreinces a wet dream how does she know if she has orgasmed or not? JazakAllah khair. or may be its not pain i cant explain that what that is. Rub water on the whole of your body like oil, especially in winter (this is when you can rub soap over your body). Most of this is cultural. You can break the ice and start educating them BUT if they are already teenagers then it will be a bit complicated to connect with thembut still possible inshaAllah, and Allah knows best. Been wanting to talk to the children but have no idea how to start. Jazakullahkhairan katheera for this very informative and much needed article. I dont know what to do because I feel I am constantly going to the bathroom and cleaning myself, so much so that I change my pad at least two to three times a day. or i didnt had any wetness in the first place? Do you actually have a sex dream that ends in an O and you wake up wet, or is more you wake up in morning with Jizz in your pants with no memory. How much I would have liked to have shared the knowledge within it. May Allah reward your work, amin. Just because . Is it necessary to wear an under wear since we all women have white discharge in our everyday lives.. but is it necessary? She must have yaqin (certainty) or at least a very strong presumption that shes had a wet dream (which includes an orgasm). Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): "Allah burdens not a person beyond his scope" [al-Baqarah 2:286] "If a man experiences a wet dream this does not invalidate his fast, because it was involuntary on his part; it is similar to the case when something enters his throat whilst he is sleeping." (See al-Mughni by Ibn Qudamah, vol. Every one of you brothers and sisters, go to islamqa.com, type in the keywords of your questions and concerns, 9 times out of 10 you will find your answer on the utmost embarrassing issues answered by real scholars. The place for the intention is in the heart, meaning you know that you are standing to pray maghrib 3 rakahs, so you dont have to say it out loud. If you have a wet dream when you are fasting and you notice discharge, does it break fast? It is a dream where you might see yourself or some other girl with some guy. The same goes for all other acts of worship like prayer, wudu the intention should not be said or pronounced out loud, and a person should have the intention in their heart only, and it should not be uttered with the tongue because this is not from the sunnah. 4. Some days ago I think I had a wet dream but I was not sure because all the wet dream I use to wake up feeling aroused and sometime I remember the dream but this particular one I dreamt only of a male coming into a room with a group of people and then I woke up so the doubt begins again. Wet dreams are caused by a build up of semen and other reproductive fluids. Also, parents should take some time reading some material over this subject. | MuslimMatters.org. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Other. I would say start by educating them about their body parts, and how certain parts of the body are very private and needs to be well guarded and taken care of because we are Muslims and Allah has asked us to do so (and you can read some of the surahs WITH meanings to them etc. Women Visiting Graveyards & Donating Reward to the Deceased, Another version of the Hadith on visiting ones parents grave and reciting Surah Yasin. This is the view of the Shaafii School. Saba Syed (aka Umm Reem) is the author of International award winning novel, "An Acquaintance." We are even taught how to use the bathroom properly. May Allah reward you. Just so that some sisters dont get confused, the link to the above fatwa regards to female discharges, seems to have ikhtilaaf over the issueand this matter doesnt seem to be as black and white as described in the fatwa, wAllahu taala alam. is there a specific colour for the discharge when you have an orgasm during a wet dream? Click here to support MuslimMatters with a monthly donation of $2 per month. In which case, if the young daughter experiences a wet dream, she may not know the. Does female maniy gushes out too? 3. For men, and women alike wet dreams may or may not be accompanied with a dream and this will require a complete article to explain with medical/psychological references and a response will not do complete justice. Dont you feel ashamed writing something like that when you know men are reading what you write, and possibly curious teenage boys? To use my passion for the canon of western literature on the school syllabus to perhaps help the children to see the importance of empathy for the plight of others. Once a sisters 9-10 year old daughter used her mothers body massager on her private areas; and ,very innocently, explained to her mother that it used to feel good. Brother, window.__mirage2 = {petok:"JW.xeV8p4o0gibLpop4tX9.JFQiLOiIWBdVZWHhPENw-1800-0"}; Is it permissible to watch recorded videos of female teachers, as part of an online course, during Islamic fasting? It is crucial that every parent have this talk with their kids, both boys and girls, and inform them about these things and the Islamic rulings on them. I cannot imagine anyone in their right mind saying yes. but when she wakes up and no wetness then thats fine although its better to perform ghusl. He began searching far and wide for answers to the fundamental questions of life and was disappointed at the answers he found. It is a very good question, but to be honest I dont know the answer. Sister, I was referring to this hadith: I would say just start talking about it. We do not know of any difference of opinion concerning that either. The hadith means that if a woman (who has reached puberty) passes in front of a man when he is praying, then his prayer is cut off. what is the ruling regarding amarried woman having thoughts of another man like what ever she dors the man jst pop in her mind but the thoughts are not sexually related. It is a strong sexual sensation that sends waves of pleasure from abdominal area to vaginal area, which makes a woman arch her back a bit and perhaps want to thrust her pelvis spasmodically. and Allah knows best. I read that the female maniy maybe white sometimes. I cant remember where I read this: any ideas/clarifications? Secondly, there is no haya in issues concerning the deen. And I am very confused. So how about when Allaah is Watching your every move, And the angels who are with you recording everything youve written to be questioned about on the Day of Judgement? I am having an issue causing me a lot of anxiety for the past couple of months. They need to be open and friendly. Functional cookies help to perform certain functionalities like sharing the content of the website on social media platforms, collect feedbacks, and other third-party features. He said: Women are the full sisters of men. [Sunan Ab Dwd and Sunan al-Tirmidh]. It is not as simple to explain the orgasm in words. Shes moving. I am a female, I ask these questions below to in shaa Allah make my ibadaat easy and avoid needless bathing, my non-Muslim family can say that I only spend time in toilet for ghusl and wudu as urinating takes a lot of time for me and preparation for salah therefore too. i also have a question already published above but not answered! JAZAKILLAH. My question is I my dream a man is pinch me near my privat part but I didnt feel any thing Is this true? p.s so sorry for my bad grammar. May Allaah have mercy on us, grant us Haya and guide us to whats most pleasing to Him. There are a number of lectures given from, Mothers feel shy talking to their daughters about it. Will ghusal be obligatory after this type of discharge? All one can do is try. And also this only happens rarely and totally uncontrollably. Pour . A message for the admin: Because you are not in control of what your body does, usually. Therefore, if a person has what seems to be a wet dream, but upon waking finds nothing, then he does not have to bathe. Not a forum with men and women together discussing their irrelevant personal experiences. Out of these, the cookies that are categorized as necessary are stored on your browser as they are essential for the working of basic functionalities of the website. To conclude, since the female wet dream may or may not be accompanied by a discharge, contrary to that of men, I posed a few questions to the shuyukh based on the discussion I had with other women and I received following answers from Sh. what if i first wash my entire body with soap and shampoo and then do the wadhu? And Allah Taala ( ) knows best. Does the definition of wet dream apply to one whether they are awake or asleep? one more question what if we see masturbation in a dream is ghusl valid there? He said, He does not have to do ghusl. Umm Salamah said, O Messenger of Allah, does a woman have to do ghusl if she sees something like that? He said, Yes, women are the twin halves of men. (Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood). i need to know if i is normal or i need to consult to doctor? Similarly, once a sister saw her young daughter (around 7) using the shower massager on her private areas while taking a shower. I know there are some anti-sex psychos in the world that actually believe this, but the fact is that God made us and our bodies to operate and function in several ways, and God is nowhere near the level of obtuseness as these kind of psycho/religious fanatics. still do i have to take a shower? He embarked on his journey of learning through the various teachers at SeekersGuidance, including his mentor Shaykh Faraz Rabbani. But sometimes scenarios are different; could you please be so kind to give me answers to few scenarios? This is a step that a mother has to initiate and be the first to break the ice. My suggestion is to explain exactly what happens during a wet dream, next give her the biological/hormonal cause, and then explain to her the Islamic ruling about it. Do ghusl if:-You remember having a wet dream WITH orgasm (even if you dont SEE extra wetness). BUT they felt too shy to even pose the question with a complete anonymous name/email. i woke up from sleep and i found a white discharge and i do not remember any wet dreamdo i need ghusl? Assalamualaikum dear sister Al-Bahr Ar-Raaiq: Sharh Kanz Ad-Daqaaiq reads: It is an obligation according to the agreement of the (Hanafi) scholars to perform Ghusl if one is sure that it is Maniyy (semen) whether or not he remembers having a wet dream, and if he is sure that it is Mathy and he remembers having a wet dream., The reason they say Ghusl is obligatoryis that what came out could have be semen but after a long time it became thin so when waking up, the personbelieves that it is Mathy. Sister thank u so much for clearing that stuff up for me but in one the hadeeths or quranic verse it says that having wet dreams is a sign of puberty and I havent hit puberty yet Im 13 so does that mean that it is fardh for me to start praying on time etc. 3. Recently, its been happening alot, it never used to happen before and Im 19 so it probably would have happened before if it was to do with puberty but it never did.
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